I don’t like looking younger because of the dis-credit this can come with. Because people can just assume I’m immature, that they can’t count on me, that I won’t be able to cope.
I don’t like looking younger
Very often people tell me I look younger than I am. I’m (almost!) 33 and I’m not really concerned about it, but I still take it as a compliment, because I assume one day I’ll start caring.
Do I really look younger, though?
Sometimes though, they overdo it… Two times people thought I was 19… and then it started hitting me in a different way. Is that even a compliment, anymore? I no way look like a 19-year-old, I have those wrinkles between the eyes forming, and all. So what was it that makes me seem younger than I am? A lack of self-confidence maybe? A kind of ‘fear’ that comes with immaturity and not fully knowing and trusting yourself? I could sadly see myself in that.
It stopped being a compliment
This is when I stopped feeling flattered when people tell me I look younger. Despite their best intentions and how they honestly thought I was younger, all I could hear was “you’re not a grown-up, are you”, “does your mommy know you’re out so late?” haha 😂 I’m kidding, but I didn’t take it well, from then on.
When I actually was 19, I had a similar issue. People did not think I was younger than I was, but most of the time they treated me like I was… 8! I started working as a makeup artist at that age, and too often, when undertaking a photo-shooting, a video clip shooting, or theatre makeup, I was the youngest in the crew. No matter how professional my behavior was, sometimes people just thought I was too young to be “amongst them”.
I started working as a makeup artist at that age, and no matter how professional my behavior was, sometimes people just thought I was too young to be “amongst them”.
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It all comes back to my attitude, my energy, how baby-like I can look at someone when I feel unsure, how much of a femme-enfant I could be!
So, yes, I don’t like looking younger because of the dis-credit this can come with. Because people can just assume I’m immature, that they can’t count on me, that I won’t be able to cope. So what do I do about it? I won’t try to change people’s minds, or “prove them wrong”. I’ll just work on feeling more mature, like people can count on me, like I can cope. And then how I look at people will change. And that way they’ll see me for the age that I am. And that’s a good thing.
Until next time, take care
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